Sit, Stay! Ideas For Erotic Beginner's BDSM!

Many people have the most unique, deep fantasies, often relating to dominance and submission. These fantasies usually stem from things like embarrassing naughty teacher fetishes as adolescents, or the fiendish and conniving mentality of sly teenagers. So the boy in the corner who purposely forgets his homework simply so the teacher will teach him a lesson, and the bossy girl who makes fun of the weaker ones could easily grow into the most kinky and erotically in-tune adults, and hopefully one day find each other!

Well if this is the case for you, and you've found your discipline partners but are not to sure where to begin, then here are a few ideas of this you and your partner can try to pick things up and get the punishments delivered.

It is usually pretty obvious who is the dominate one and who will play submissive, so once that is sorted, start small. Maybe one of you have some specific requests, for example someone with a foot fetish would prefer sexy shoes or boots, or someone who likes to be blindfolded may require a selection of soft eye covers! These are the small details that will mean the difference between roaring orgasms and frustration.

If you are into bondage, then try getting some sexy restraints. You can get wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs that can be used to hold your partner to a chair, post, the bed etc. Or why not try some silky bondage rope and a book on different rope tying techniques. Then you can practice tying each other up and having your way with them.

If one of you likes to role play, then cute and kinky costumes are a must. Naughty nurse, horny fireman, or perhaps something more detailed like a sweet, innocent maiden versus a blood thirsty demon of the night.

You can also add food to your fetish. Tie him up, beat him down and then gently feed him his dinner. Or get him to tie you up and tease you with strawberries and whipped cream. You can of course be vile about it as well! An idea for her: tie her up with her legs spread so she cannot bring them together, then tie up her hands behind her back and get out her favorite clitoral stimulator or vibrator. Then lube it up, and tease her with some sweet fruit and chocolate. Feed her a piece for a hint of the goodness to come, and the begin taunting her with the vibrator. Using sex toys can be a real sweet treat on its own, but this just adds some eroticism to it all!

So play around with her, poking and probing her with the vibrator, until she can barely handle it. Feed her her fruit occasionally, which will help her mentally link this sweet treat with the sensation between her legs. Also, her not being able to push her legs together will help her reach her orgasm faster, and stronger! The right before she orgasms, give her another piece of fruit and watch her amazing orgasm she will have, an orgasm so grand it will tingle all her senses!

This is just one kinky idea you can do to tease each other. Play around and get creative with your bondage gear and sexy fetishes. If he has a foot fetish, or some kind of fetish that can be tickled with sexy clothing or accessories, then why not lay him down and walk all over him with your spikiest heels and your shortest skirt! Get him to give your heel a good sucking on, and maybe he should be licking and kissing your delicate ankle... then oops! An innocent little kick in the cheek! But make sure you tie him up first, so he can't pounce on you!

Anyway you choose to play, enjoy your partner, and enjoy the sexy things you do together. Keep trying new things, and maybe invest in some kinkier sex toys or some more interesting bondage equipment! There is always bondage furniture you can get, like chairs with built in restraints and so on.

Healthy, Happy Sex

Sex is a very healthy activity, even more so when you do it with someone you really love. As long as you're playing safe, things can go very well, you can loose weight and be happier inside. But things can get dull, and here are some tips on having healthy, happy sex.

Have sex when you feel the urge coming on. Chances are after a while, you both will have your urges at the same time, brining you closer together in the mind. Sharing this experience together is a good way for getting closer and relating to each other. This is also a good way of getting to know what each others likes and dislikes, and knowing the person inside a lot better.

As long as you are playing safe, and wearing some kind of birth control, like a condom. This prevents against STD's and pregnancy. A good idea of something to do together is to get tested if you've had other partners. Go together and get tested at the same time, this way you can get your results together and celebrate the hopeful good news.

Sex toys are of course a really great way of having healthy, safer sex. You can stimulate each other all night and wake up happy and relaxed. Try buying each other sex toys as gifts, and you can figure out more about your partner and relate to which your favorites are. If you have never used sex toys with each other, waiting to see your partners surprise when they open their gift will be unbearable!

Little things like rubbing her feet, and breakfast in bed is all sexual activities leading up to sex play. Rubbing body parts is a way of touching, which stimulates the mind to think "oh this feels good, and i love when they touch me", which will lead to "oh yes, this turns me on!". After a night of sex sex and more sex, breakfast in bed for your drowsy partner is a very cute way of saying a discreet 'thank you for last night'. The thoughtful action might even get you some morning sex! All around touching and sensitivity are important aspects of a relationship that should be shared all the time for real happiness.

Sex helps you loose calories by giving you exercise and making you sweat. Muscles you may not use very often are exercised during sex, which strengthens and tones. The faster, harder and rougher the sex is, the longer it lasts, and the number of different positions you play in are all factors of how many calories you loose, and how much muscle is strengthening. Try to last longer and make sure both of you reach your orgasm, and feel the blood rush happily through your veins!

Sex also releases endorphins in your brain that trigger "happy"! These chemicals tell your brain that you are relaxed, having a good time and are really happy, which brightens your day, and bring you closer to your partner! If you've got some kind of fetishes, like tying each other up or a foot fetish or something, make sure you fulfill them, maybe not all the time, but at least twice a week. Try role playing also for some new exotic fun!

Sex is a healthy activity for couples, and for the individual. Good, close and personal sex will bring you both together, stronger and happier. Perky up your happiness and have safe, loving and wild sex with your partner, as much as you please! This is a great form of exercise and a great way of calming and relaxing your brain, especially right before bedtime!